Almost six years ago, on what seemed to be a pretty normal night, my life changed forever when I met Sarah Roe – creator of Money Saving Queen.
At that time, my world was a little chaotic. I was a single mom, trying to pay the bills and balance work, children, and a relationship with the man who would later become my Mr. Fix It. But with all this chaos and all these people to care for, I was lonelier than I’d ever been in my life. About two years before, within the space of 4 months, I’d lost a wonderful support system of girlfriends due to a move, and I’d lost my oldest and dearest friend to a suicide. For some reason I had a very hard time opening back up after that. I felt like there was nobody that I could talk to about so many things – my fears that I wasn’t being a good mom – my feelings of wanting so desperately to be married again – my fears of failing AGAIN, and what that would mean for me and my children. So many things that I needed friends to talk to and support me and encourage me in – and I felt like I had no one.
My mom asked me if I’d like to go along with her to a couponing workshop. Couponing was something that Nanny had been diligent about. My mom routinely clipped coupons, but wasn’t as consistent about using them. But I just felt like coupons were a waste of my time. I felt like the minutes I’d spend clipping coupons couldn’t possibly be worth the few cents I’d save. But I needed a night out – even if it seemed a little silly. I mean, I certainly wasn’t about to start clipping coupons – that’d be crazy! But I enjoyed that coupon workshop and jumped into money saving with both feet. It was as much a surprise to me as it was to anyone else. My mom thought it was great, but also enjoyed poking a little fun at me about it. I started following the then “918 Coupon Queen” website daily, and I found a group of women in the forums that I longed to know in real life. They prayed for each other and shared their struggles. Then one day, I noticed a post on the site that they needed a volunteer to do Reasor’s Matchups – and I jumped at the opportunity. Yes, it would require some hard work and there would be no paycheck – but I would join the “Princess” club. I had no idea what that was going to mean, but I just felt like it was meant to be. There were ups and downs. The work was hard and sometimes frustrating. But the wonderful things far outweighed the frustrations. I was no longer alone. We shared our lives online with one another – and we eagerly looked forward to the times we could gather in person at a coupon swap or princess party. Sarah encouraged all of us. She was patient with our mistakes and full of praise for our hard work. She encouraged us all in so many ways. At one point she took a story I’d written about Josie on Facebook and posted it as a devotion on her site. That was the first time I even considered being able to write for a public audience like this.
When Nanny became ill and eventually passed away I had to quit for a few months because I just couldn’t deal with matchups with everything else going on in my life. But my Princess Sisters continued to be there for me and support me anyway. They held me up through that awful time, and when I was ready, they accepted me back with open arms.
This last week we have weathered the worst storm we have ever known, and we’ve done it together. Sarah’s website, that she has worked and sweated and cried over for seven years, has been taken from her. She is not allowed, due to legal constraints, to even discuss the matter beyond saying that her investors have decided to terminate her employment contract. In the beginning, my Princess Sisters and I were shocked and sad, but that has turned to anger and a righteous indignation at the people who have done this to our sister and to us. Since the website is making no announcements, we feel the need to spread the word that Sarah is no longer the voice behind the site. As it stands now, people who have not heard about the change are being led to believe that Sarah is still posting and in control, and that is just wrong.
So what is the point of this post?
- I am no longer able to recommend Money Saving Queen to you as I have in the past. All previous links will be redirected to this blog post.
- If you are a blogger, let this be a warning. If your blog is your heart and soul – protect it. Do not consider selling your blog to investors unless it is a blog that you are willing to lose. Don’t trust contracts to protect you!
- Follow my friend and sister Sarah at Food Allergy Eats. If you have food allergies in your family, this is a wonderful resource. And even if you don’t, the recipes are yummy!
- More than anything, I want Sarah and my other Princess Sisters to know – you have changed my life completely and permanently for the better! I am so grateful for each one of you and I will consider you to be my family, with or without a website to bind us together. It wasn’t the website that bound us together anyway – it was our love for one another. And that is something that no one can ever take away.
For another perspective, please check out this blog post by my Sister Princess Brandi! It’s beautiful.