When I began this blog, I promised that you would get to know my family…
So, I would like to introduce you to my sweet hubby – Let’s call him Mr. Fix It (names changed to protect the not so innocent ;))
I’m calling him Mr. Fix It because this man can fix anything, build anything, do ANYTHING. He is the smartest and most capable man I know! He is also the shyest man I know – so even if you know him, it’s likely that you don’t really KNOW him.
It’s hard to get Mr. Fix It to talk unless you know the right subjects to talk about. If you want to hear his voice, ask him how something works. He will explain it, and explain it, and EXPLAIN it… Or ask him about Josie (name also changed). The thing that made me fall in love with him first was the way that he glowed when he talked about his daughter. And that becomes even more beautiful when you learn that Josie suffers from Cerebral Palsy and will need total care for the rest of her life.
Mr. Fix It is always ready to jump in and use his mad Mr. Fix It skills to help friends or family members who need cars fixed or household repairs made. He is also wonderful about building me raised garden beds, brick flower beds, new chicken coops, or anything else I decide I’d like to have around the house – even when that means his own projects sit neglected in the shop. Mr. Fix It is VERY frugal (notice I worked very hard to find a nice word there) and appreciates my time spent finding bargains on the things we want for ourselves and our family.
I’ve been “Mrs. Fix It” since June 14, 2008. We had been dating for three and a half LONG years. We were both a little (or a lot) gun-shy when it came to marriage – but when we decided that we were going to be married we didn’t want to wait any longer. We made the decision to get married on a Sunday, and our wedding was six days later. It’s a good thing that my dad is a pastor or we might have had to run away to Vegas!
Let’s talk about the elephant in the room. Since I am not shy about sharing my faith – you might be wondering about the fact that Mr. Fix It and I have obviously each been divorced. And yes, we are THAT kind of Christians. Divorce is not God’s plan. And it is not what either of us wanted for ourselves or for our children. I will not go into the details of our divorces here, but I will say that each of the two (yes TWO) divorces that each of us went through before we met were completely unavoidable. In each case, there was unfaithfulness and/or abuse. While I do not believe that divorce is in God’s plan – I also do not believe that God expects us to remain in marriages with unfaithful and unrepentant spouses, nor do I believe that He expects us to stay and be injured or watch our children being injured. If divorce is a sin in those situations, then I will gladly accept the punishment.
But the amazing part, and the part that has blessed me beyond measure, is how God has taken two people whose lives had been completely destroyed by divorce, forgiven them for their own failures in those marriages, and created for them a second chance at love and life and family. It is beautiful, it is amazing, and I am more grateful than I can express.
Instead of your shame
you will receive a double portion,
and instead of disgrace
you will rejoice in your inheritance.
And so you will inherit a double portion in your land,
and everlasting joy will be yours.